Well, a year went by. A year. I put it off and delayed it and kept making those "logical" excuses for why I shouldn't bother. Here are some of them:
- I'm sure I'll randomly run into her some time in the near future. (This didn't happen.)
- It's too late now.
- I missed my chance.
- If I was going to do something, I should have done it months ago. Now it doesn't matter.
- (Both last winter and this fall): It's cold now, and people aren't outside much anymore - I won't run into her.
- (When it was warmer): She's busy talking with someone, so I can't wait around to talk to her...that would be awkward.
- (She had a baby): I could bring her a meal, but what if they are vegetarian? What if they have food allergies that I don't know about? I don't know what they like!
Once I figured I had missed my chance and it was too late, it became easier and easier to put it out of my mind and think about it less often.
Then, last week, I realized that since we will be moving in the near future, I may never ever make that connection. The finality of that thought finally drove me to action.
I went to her house and talked with her, and made that connection. We had a great chat, and have purposed to get together again in the near future.
I felt lighter, as though a little burden that had been pressing upon my shoulders was finally lifted. I did what had been impressed upon me to do for a year.
I'm telling you this because if you ever feel that same feeling - like you should make an effort to get to know someone, or that you should do [this] or [that]- don't wait as long as I did. Procrastinating and trying to justify not doing something (because it would pull you out of your comfort zone) won't benefit you one bit. The longer you put it off for, the harder it is to eventually motivate yourself to action.
Sometimes opportunities (that, who knows, could change our lives in one way or another) pass us by, and we don't have the luxury of taking the opportunity up at a later date. Often, however, those opportunities are still there, and while the longer we wait, the more difficult it is to take action, it's not impossible to take action. Often, it's not too late. Often, we haven't actually missed our chance.
Don't sit there and formulate excuses for not doing what you know you should be doing. Just do it. After all, who knows how you could impact the lives of others by taking the action you know you should take? Who knows what kinds of doors could be opened, what kinds of opportunities await, or what kinds of changes or effects certain connections, relationships or actions could create?
Just do it.